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When we are small, making new friends comes as easy as breathing. We see the other kid playing and without any thinking we run towards it. And this is it – we have a new friend.

As the years pass by, they teach us what is decent, acceptable, desirable and what isn`t. With all that informations, and corrections, in our head we continue dashing through life.

Now let`s take a very common example: you are a woman in the best years of your life. You are not a small brat anymore and hell, you are miles away from becoming a biddy!  With great passion, you will claim to anyone that you just love people, going out and general mingling. But, you are lonely, very lonely. Most of your friends are married with children or in some other serious relationships with plenty of „time-eaters“. That`s why you`re nagging and whining how you don`t have anyone to go out with and your daily social coffee cups have become very, very rare.

So you are sighing.

It is sooooo hard.

To be alone like this. And you can`t stop yoursef „moaning“ to so called friends how they are neglecting you. For their important everyday „obligations“. Every now and then you shed a tear.

Poor little me. Sniff.

Nobody loves me. Sniff, sniff.

I am so…so..nice and I am all alone. Sniff, sniff, sniff.

IS THERE ANY LOVING IN THIS ROOM????? Booooohooohoooaaaaaa!!! Tears are dropping, saturating those cold, hostile walls of solitude.

Bollocks.

We have few very strong enemies and they are self-pity and laziness. That`s right. And don`t even try to use the „…but I`m not like that! I just…“. Yeah right…Cut the crap. Every now and then, all of us have been playing that role. And then we blamed everyone else. `Cause we are soooo great and the others can`t see it. Aha. Think again.

OK, people are connecting, bounding and linking. And after some time, they do things which are taking them in some other direction from yours. For that reason, they often leave from your mutual world, some physically and some emotionally. Which leaves you… Playing the martyr. Alone…miserable…left by everyone…with nobody around…

Well move your lazy butt! Look again. There are literally tons of good, high quality people with who you can mingle and become friends. But they need some effort too, you should offer a part of you. For crying out loud, even if you are the shyest creature in the galaxy, now in our time, we have like a zillion social networks – bless the internet, where you can meet so many people to blow your mind.

But company and familiarzing alludes interaction, giving-taking, listening, effort, thinking…a that present a Greek drama, does it? It is too hard probably.

Nothing has changed. You can still approach the other child, offer it a ball or a doll asking: „Wanna play with me?“. Because everyone has it`s favorite toy, material one, intelectual or emotional, which he/she can share with another person.

The main advantage is that you don`t have to yell like crazy under someone`s window asking: „Mrs.Jones, can Linda come out and play?“.

So take your best, your worst, all that makes you special as you are, and share it. Your future friends are tapping in expectation.

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Watching the tv last night. Jumping from channel to channel looking for something watchable. And there, on one of them, I saw a reality show with a 50-and-something woman jumping in front of the camera as a yorkshire terrier in front of a beaf can. Watched it for about a minute, felt sorry for her and changed the chanell.

But she got me thinking – how many of them do you know? The ones who are making a fool of themselves in certain years, playing the role of „if I feel like a teenager, then I probably am one“? Don`t get me wrong, I do bealive that we should be active and alive all our lives but some lines of good taste must be drawn.

And I don`t know who looks more silly doing it, men or women.

Female example: a mature lady, which desperatly wants to look as a teenager, shopping just the „goodies“ made for them and acting in the same way. You saw it, with the mini skirt, wearing a glittering t-shirt with the sign „sexy girl“, with the hair totally burned of peroxid and with 3 tons of make up on their face, usually with quite….interesting colours.

Usually very loud, giggles all the time, with a disturbingly happy expression on her face.

Or

Male example: „cool“ jeans, so tight that it really brings his ass in the spotlight, again a t-shirt with a „cool“ sign on it, Ray Ban glasses, wears a belonging neckless.

Also loud, checks ALL the girls on the street (from 15-45), usually throws a line to all of them, which is, according to him, very funny too. And yeah, he digs it all! (while the girl, on which he is drulling, looks at him with pity, poor granpa….)

Feeling pathetic anyone?

The thing that I don`t understand is if they truely bealive that this will pass? If this kind of man just doesn`t get it, that his targeted audience sees him as a silly, and often irittating, old fart? While the woman of the same model presents just a comical smeared halfing?

I know that it is „in“ to be young but the clock is ticking people. And everybody hears and sees it. And also, what happened to the old saying that every time brings it`s joy?