Tag Archive: The One


So, let`s say that you like the guy so much that you would do almost anything to become the most shining star on his wide sky.

And that`s ok. As long as you are somehow sure that you have picked the right, the most compatible, person for your cosmos. And how you may find out? Hm, maybe that`s the tougher part but here`s one real life situation which might help.

 

OK, yes he was interesting. Tall, dark, a photography passionnel, always ready for action and adventure, he loved to travel, well educated…

So, one particular friend of mine called the Man to dinner at her place. The problem was she wasn`t a great cook. She was fun, smart, joyful but her favorite saying „I can make more than 100 various sandwiches“ wasn`t exactly the punchline which would attract a man.

So, me and her father (yes, the father because that man is a proper cooking wizard) spent the whole afternoon, and half of the evening, in the kitchen preparing the delizie della vita that were suppose to knock the Man down and leave him in her apartment for indefinite time.

He arrived, we all sat down to the table and started to eat. I was really enjoying the food, my friend relish it and her father was just proud how excellent the cuisine was. Here I have to highlight one thing – we ate and he was guttling. No table manners. In fact, it was clear that the fine cousine zest wasn`t his thing.

But you can`t give up on a man just because of that, can`t you!

The thing is that you can after you hear certain things.

 

Anyhow, how the dinner was coming to it`s end, all of the sudden the Man started to talk about a girl he met few years ago which he really really liked. Yes, it was rude, it was brassy, insensitive and improper, but just out of curiosity, I`ve asked him what did he like about her. Bealive it or not, this was his answer:

Well, she wasn`t exactly pretty, in fact she was far from it. Her taste is clothes was… cheap and tacky. She wasn`t funny, that`s for sure. And she wasn`t smart either. I didn`t like her laughter too, but man how she was washing the dishes!“

Excuse me?!?!?!

What???

The dishes“ – he continued with a dreamy look in his eyes, „she was washing the dishes so perfectly and carefully like I never seen it before. What a woman!“ – he finished with a sigh still looking enchanted.

And that was it.

I mean, what in the world can you expect from a man which doesn`t care if you are smart, funny, how you look, if you`re sexy or not, how you dress, how you cook or finally how you laugh?!? Oh, it ended that same evening.

Last we heard about him is that he married a woman almost 20 years older than him and that the two of them are mostly living on different addresses. I bet he is coming to see her only if he feels the sudden urge to wash something for him.

What a man!

 

So, please try to make sure if the One you really really want is really for you. You know, the One which will feel your inner light, not just the shine of your freshly washed cutlery.

 

Because you deserve it, 44.

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Me, myself and I

He is looking for his better half. On the web. And somewhere after 842 527 searched profiles he have chosen her.

And the absolute thrill came on the scene. She`s the one!

Who`s the one?

The one which isn`t right for him in any way.

So, he went estatic, called me for an emergency cup of coffee and sat on the other side of the table shining like a star. Then he started to wagging with her printed profile.

He: Look at this! She`s fantastic!

Me: Let me see….

I`m reading…Hm…..Reading some more…Then I look at him while he is blinking estaticly with his eyes… Keep reading… Then I explode.

Me: Are you out of your mind?!?

He: Why?

Me: Why???!!!??? How did you think that this would ever work!!!!???

Description of The One:

Hobbies: paragliding, parachuting, skiing, mountain biking, mountain climbing

Loves: westerns (even adores), action movies, horrors, strong men which are not afraid of powerful women, going to the gym

Hates: whimps, people who hate sport, silence, boring shows on tv (politics, economy), dramatic movies, romantic comedies

F*****  Xena!

His description:

Hobbies: reading, reading and once again reading, watching politicial debates, attending cultural events, stock market, deep consideration about the Universe as it was, it is and how it will be

Loves: dramatic movies, psychological thrillers, warm dusk with a book in hes hands, romance, slow Sunday morning walks by the sea, family lunches, long disscusions about the roots of english grammar, cardigans, comfortable sweaters in general

Hates: any physical activity, people who doesn`t have the hunger for knowledge, indecent people, rude people, primitive people, shallow people, non-educated people, action movies, horrors, westerns

And he still asked why!

That s the most extreme example that I know of, but I still wonder HOW can someone think that this would work? When they try to level up something that they consider to be their fault or flaw with finding someone else who is totally opposite from them?

For example, somebody is a depressive and crancky type but he is looking for a cheerful, tolerant and opened person. Or someone with absoluetly no ambitions at all, who is lazy by default, with no passion but he is looking for someone who is successful with a shiny career, strenght of the bull and the power of the Hoover dam.

I do understand the need, when that particular someone is just too lazy to change, but how in the world he thought that he would please the person to which he is so magnetically attracted?  Or the egoism have totally hit the scale, that he actually doesn`t care what he˙s got to share with that special someone?

The excuse of mutual repleneshing simply doesn`t stands here because, for example, if we have one person who is happy-go-lucky and that person spends some time with the paint-it-black person the Happy one will start to feel bad and depressed, `cause the Black one will simply suck all the energy from his colorful batteries.

That is, if that Happy is not autistic, meaning that he doesn`t feels at all who is with him, that he doesn`t even cares or sees anyone but himself.

In this case, the mentioned Xena from the story, the loving-outdoors-warrior, would spend all her free time to her passions. Even if they would both be extremely tolerant, how and when would they be together?

Hm…

The ego is a tricky thing.

Meet yourself, love yourself, embrace even the things which may generally be considered as a fault. Be even crazy in the eyes of others if this is what it takes.

But that is who you are.

That is you.

And learn to appreciate it.

Because compatibility is not just a fancy word.