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„Career woman,  educated, funny, charming, looking for a male regarding good sex. Relationship and marriage possible, after consumating his good(ie)s.“

How that sounds?

If you`re a guy, bloody scary, that`s how.

Predatory.

We are talking about sexual equality, about sexual freedom, about all those nicely packed sh.t, with a bow on the top.

The truth is very simple – they are hunters and we are the prey, which doesn`t has much value in their eyes if it surrenders right away. To make it even more simple, if you sleep with the guy the same evening, you often become dull. Yes, you  may see each other for a while, have few good sexual encounters, but for something serious he will choose someone who put at least a little fight. Raising it`s price, in the same time.

Let`s be honest – we can yell, scream, write books, protest as much as we want, but when sex is considered,  they are still very conservative. They still like to try, to fight, even a little, to get their object of desire. Otherwise, they just loose interest and respect. So, we are left with what? To be stubborn, to do it our way, to get mad, cry, curse or just to take the things as they are.

That, I`ve been explaining to a creature, very dear to me,  for the past 10 years. Every now and then, she gets caught in the specific blues, repeating how she would like to have an official boyfriend, how she would like to be loved, cuddled, but it`s ain`t happening. All she has are dates which are starting and finishing as one night stands. The closest she ever came to a relationship, in all this years, are horny calls of the certain guy, in the middle of the night. That kind of „relationship“ lasted over a year. Tears, pleasure and fury were mixing through time, until she finally had it.

All this time she was playing her favorite happy-go-lucky song, saying that she is liberal, opened and that she has the right on it. And she really does.

But…

It`s doesn`t have anything to do with love but with consumation. A fine restaurant dinner vs. fast food. Making a fine dinner takes some effort, time and energy. If you`re not up to it, then take a hot-dog. But then don`t expect some magical flavours.

Seriously, this is how the things are regarding sex, we are still living in the age of caveman. If we get something right away, on a easy way – we just don`t appreciate it. If we have to fight for it, then it`s estimated value is far more higher.

On the other side, sex is a great thing, but if we take to a level to just satisfy our biological need, how in the world we can expect something more?

This is the time of consumerism, where we are actually receiving the message that nothing is priceless and that everyone are replaceble. We can`t praise on that altair expecting that somebody will appreciate us too much, not in that way, that`s sure. That would be prudish.

Let`s make it simple, like true hedonists – if you decide to guttle, to stack food in yourself just to survive, not thinking about it and not giving it a second thought, how do you expect a strong healthy body and some heavenly peaks?

Just decide. Who do you want to be? A predator or a prey? When you do, the things will be much easier. For you and for everyone else.

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In cooperation with my friends, wrote which kind of men are very bad for a woman. Here are few categories of men that you definitely want to avoid. With them, they only question what can bother you is „what and how much will I lose?“. Every type has it`s own symptoms and it would good if you can recognize it when you`re still ahead.

  1. „Unhappily“ married men or the ones in exclusive relationships which are still searching for the One

 

This kind of parasites are actually quite often. He is tided up but that definitly doesn`t stops him to look for a softer pillow for his anguished little head. „She“ doesn`t understands him, or She is not excatly what he was looking for but that`s not a good reason to leave her. Never or not until he is 100% sure that you will give him everything what he wants. Translating, somebody who will take all his shit and forgive him everything. Because he needs to be understood.

Then he leaves Her without any mercy. Don`t kid yourself, you will be his only one just until he gets a new itch or when he suddenly gets that even you are not what he was looking for. And he never will. He will be always playing the field and he will never commit totally to anyone.

You will recognize him for his slickness, he is always tided up, his shirts are ironed, perfectly clean, and he always has lots of neodgodive obaveze. When his cells rings he usually leaves the room and somehow he often just can`t see you when you want to. `Cause he is busy. Completly. With somebody else.

  1. Man child type

 

Do you know the saying „don`t sleep with the child because you will awake pissed“? He needs to be nourished of all the time and you always must be there for him. His needs and wishes are more important than yours. If something doesn`t goes how he wanted to, you can expect his yelling, shouting, pouting or complete silence that will last for hours and sometimes days. And you will never love him enough. He needs his mom not a equal being beside him. It has nothing to do with his age, he will never grow up. He is looking for a fairytale, without any problems or compromises. As soon as some problems occur and he needs to invest a little effort in the relationship, you will become undesirable.

You can recognize him by his eternal playfulness and his affinity to dream most of the time. He is quite amusing in the beginning, you will never be bored because he will always want to do something or go somewhere. As long as it`s not boring.

Let him get a dog.

Wait a sec, that`s a bad idea. Then he would have to feed it, walk it, pet it…  The poor thing would probably die or run away. Like you should too. As fast as possible.

  1. Damaged good

 

Once upon a time there was a certain someone who have hurted him badly and from that time he just can not love again. Wrong! He didin`t love that one either. This kind of goblin is a plain simple coward. His balls were amputated at his birth and from then he is just screwing any woman he meets. The line „Maybe…I just can`t love anyone anymore….“ is a simple lie. No asshole, you`re just too lazy and egocentric. A type of the men which always places his boundaries out of your reach just that something wouldn`t hurt him. He can`t stand any pain. Because he is too weak. Oh, you poor baby…

He usually dies alone. Because nobody wants to get only 10% for a fully paid good.

You will recognize him easily: he refuses to change any of his habits, however bad or silly they may be. He won`t take any responsability or a commitment because for him it is always too soon. As soon as you suggest that you would like a normal relationship, he will get agitated and say that you are suffocating him.

Well my dear…. I hope you`ll choke!

  1. Peacocks

 

He needs your eternal admiration. You will never stand beside him on a throne because he is the Sun around which the whole universe is turning. He is smart, beautiful as Adonis, talented, charming, funny, a star evryewhere he goes.

He always must be in the centre, surrounded by his loving fans who will faint on his arrival. When you go out, you are not so important as the reactions of other people. Actually, it is not really important if it`s you or somebody else as long as he gets the admiration he needs. Your undivided attention…As long as you feed his ego. If you try to accent yourself, his love will nepovratno fade away. You will get a lot of „Lets talk about me/mine….“. You are always talking about he and his, analyzing for hours his moves, looks or thoughts, competitions, how someone talked to him…

And you do that every day. In case you  kneel or praise enough and never look directly in the eyes there is a chance that he will rewarded you for loyalty and stay with you. In the meanwhile, you will get serious problems with your spine and skined knees.

You will recognize him for his incredible confidence and royal behavior. He is a star and he knows it. Are you the satellite?

  1. Classic player

 

You`re great for him. Really cool. He may call you when he wants and be with you when he wants. The only problem is that you would like to see him more often. To have a rythm and a constant. Not to be usually together only on a weekend (late hours) or when if he suddenly suprises you during the week when, finishing in the bed again after which he doesn`t shows or calls for days or even weeks. When you try to talk about it , about you, he says that he is having a great time with you but he is just not ready, or that this is not the time,  that now is a very delicate period for him, altough he would really like more, but now…at this time…he doesn`t have the….now… is not possible.

But he is more than willing for going out with his buddies and other girls. That is a fact. For them, he will always find and make time. And you will blush as soon as he calls. Whenever that is. Mr. Uncatchable.

And don`t kid yourself with „Maybe soon he will….“. Never. Remember that.

  1. Hidden player

 

So called Wondering eye. He is with you but whenever something passes by and it`s female,  he will absorbing with implacable intesity. When you go out he stares in other chicks, he often charms them with his brain and wit and treats you like you`re his sister or and old friend. The fact that this makes you feel inferior, unattractive and neglected is YOUR problem. Not his. Cause in the end, he is with you, what more do you want?

He needs his freedom and he will rather go out with his friends on the weekend than with you because he „relaxes so much better that way“. Oh really? So you`re comfortable but the others are more fun.

As long as you don`t nug him too much – he will stay wih you. Regular sex is a good thing… if you`re into that only. But as soon as you said anything, and pass that magic level of his tolerance (which is very low) he will leave.

Here, take the passport. And don`t come back.

  1. Mama`s boy

 

His mom is great. Or terrible. Either way he is mentioning her at least few times per a day. They usually have love-hate relationship. If his mom needs or wants something, he runs there like hell. You can wait. The mom always comes first. The reasons may be different but the end is always the same.

If you`re ready and willing to always be the 2nd one – knock youreslf out! No plan of yours will  be important enough if she calls and suggests something. Had plans for a trip together? Looking forward to it? Well if mom wants to have lunch, or something else, with her boy that day, take a rain check. Or you may take her with you. Or have always a back up plan with someone who knows the difference between a family trip and a romantic getaway.

Even if you agree on this type of arrangement be ready to hear:

–         my mom cooks it this way and I think it`s delicious

–         mom says that it`s better to do it this way

–         mom called and I have go to help her with..

–         I have to7 cause I can`t listen to my mom`s nugging

Well honey, next time you want some lovin` ask your mom!

  1. Addicts

 

Actually for this type you don`t need a special warning. No matter if it`s drug or booze. In any case remember – they are not here. Not with their head or their heart. They are using isolators, no matter which kind, because it makes them feel better. They are not really here. This type is a special kind of wimps apt to self-destruction, which is very hard – for themselves and especially for you. They can promise you anything and they are usually claiming that they are not addicted and that they can stop whenever they want.

If they could they would stop. Most of them are not retarted, they are aware of consequences. But they ignore it. The point is that you will be the one who will take all his crap: the apathy, depression or nervousness. It`s got nothing to do with you, they are just selfish and weak. Anyhow, no good. No good at all. Rarely, you may run into an exception but usually it`s pure SF. The statistics don`t lie.

How the recognize him is easy – beside the mentioned moodyness and unexpected over-reaction to things, try for example to see how many glasses (or bottles) is he consuming and how often is he drinking. Addiction is a desease which destroys not only the consument but also his close ones.

A friend of mine, who is a cop, told me a story about a woman who was beaten by her drunk husband. When they`ve asked her how long is he drinking she said: „Oh, he was a drinker since I met him!“. When they asked her howcome she didn`t react to his booze right at the beginning of the relationship she answered: „Oh but back then, when he was drinking, he was a stud!  He was acting funny, amusing and confident. I didn`t know he will be like this!

Well she should, just like you. Just say no. To the addicts too.

There, hope my little group have helped you with their experiences so that they don`t turn into becoming yours. Give your love to someone who can appreciate it and give it back to you.

Godspeed!

 

I have a curios nature. Don`t like fatalism. Just can`t buy all those „What you gonna do, it`s faith, right?“. I refuse to bealive that everything is predrawned and decided. I am the tailor of my life in every aspect. But I`m opened to almost all theories, bealifs and explainations. And yes, I do bealive that there is something more, that we are all part of it, but don`t hussle me with something which is against my nature and reason. Respect me and I will respect you.

And for that reason, from time to time, I meet all kinds of followers and spiritual junkies.

Like this one.

I met the guy few years ago. Gentle, educated and kind liberal, living in the countryside, on a decent estate, lots of animals on it, sourrounded by beautiful nature. So I decided to try.

He was very attached to his family and I must say that they have wellcomed me with their arms and hearts wide opened.  But soon it turned out there is a story behind it.

His family is a synonim for spritual junkies. They bealive in everything. Absolutely everything. You name it, they got it. I just don`t get it how in the world are they functioning at all! Everything that happens or doesn`t happens is a SIGN. From a small pebble on the road up to the events on the global level.  Oh, yes, I had fun in the beggining! Long talks in front of the open fire, regenerating walks in the woods, explaining the Sense and the Path till the break of dawn…

Until few things happened… Some things that I just couldn`t swallow…

Event 1.

Summer storm. Comes suddenly with all surpressed strenght. And brings the releif. Usually.

An hour or so, after such a bless, me and the Liberal came home, back to the comforting countryside. And had an Opening, a grand one actually. We really had something to see: in the whole living room, dining room were covered with water, the bathroom looked like Beyrut caused by the powerful wind which have thrown all the things from the shelves, braking  ceramic tiles, toilet shell and the sink. In the middle of all that chaos we found his mother and sister peacefully sitting, with their legs on the chairs, avoiding the flood. After few seconds of disbelief, I have asked them why, in the God`s name, they haven`t closed the shutters or at least the windows when the storm started?!? They answered me calmly, in total Zen mode, that they couldn`t because that was a sign…

What a f…… sign?!?!? That you are morons?!? And why haven`t you cleaned mopped all that water???? No answer. They thought the question doesn`t deserve an answer. Why would it? It`s obvious!

Event 2.

His sister had a fight with her best friend. She came home, thrown all the friend`s things including her gifts. Then she started to lit up the candles „to clean the bad energy“. And took the rest of the actions that could follow such an event.

And I was cool with it. Really.

Until the rooster got it!

The poor thing had certain years, so his favorite thing was just hanging around the yard, avoiding all uncessary actions. He picked the wrong time to be hanging around doing nothing.  They killed it. Explaining it that sister`s ex-best friend have sent negative energy which have reflected from the sister to the poor rooster. So they HAD to eliminate it.

Aaaaaaaaaaaand that was it! It`s been a pleasure, you`re an lovely audience but I really have to go! Gone! Running! See ya!

There are people like it. Everything mystical, distant and out of reach is just….FANASTIC and everything what suits them is justified. Everything except taking the responsability of their actions and decisions. Cause that would mean that they are here and now, that they see themselves and others as they are, and that would involve some feelings and thougts which may not be pleasant. And that would be the real epiphany!