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For the last few days I`ve heard about several break ups.

Personally, I congratulate everyone on the occasion because that someone has learned something about himself, about relationships in general and because that someone has given himself a chance for a nice new beginning.

Good for you!

Pop that bottle!

But what about the ones who haven`t took anything from it?

And I don`t mean on I-got-the car-you-got-the-dog but on the personal upgrade. What about them? When someone tells you that his ex have cruely suddenly broke up something which he/she thought it was a certain thing and for no reason at all? Then, we usually presume that this cruel ex one has to be a total jerk/bitch and complete human trash. But is it really so?

Have a similar case, from few years time.

He called crying that She left him. Without any explanations at all, she just packed her things and slammed the door. How could she??? After all that time?!? After everything??? They were together for so long, everything was ok, they had plans…

And for that, all their friends have concluded that they are almost obligated to attach to the heartless girl about a dozen deragotary epithets. Nobody, only if it`s a total moron or have found somebody new, is leaving and breaking a good solid relationship for no reason at all.

And so, time flew by, and after few months I run into The Ex. We exchanged the usual How-re-you-how˙s-work-mother-dog phrases and then we went for a coffee. Wanting it or not, somehow we started to talk about her ex, formerly known as The Shocked and Left Behind For No Reason. And… she had something to say. And how!

Oh everything looked perfectly between them…. from the outside. But on the inside it was a different story.

After exchanging the big words in the beginning, everything got down to the fact that he wanted all attention and understanding in the world but in the same time not giving any. He have probably presumed that he took the territory and therefore he doesn`t have to try anymore.

If they had any plans, he would discharge them without any thought – if his friends would call for a drink he just grabbed the keys and left, because he knew that she will wait.

When they haven`t been intimate for weeks, for example, he didn`t worry about it. He had his own buzz at the time, for which he didn`t felt he had to explain it and for the fact that he doesn`t even treats her like a woman but as a relative – he didn`t bother. Didn`t have time for that now.

She will always be here, no matter what. He doesn`t have to compliment her – doh, she knows how she looks like, if he changed a plan that they made – how she can be mad, they will be together all their lives, there is always time….How she can get so pissed about it?!?

How? Because he haven`t won her on a lottery, he doesn`t owns her, so that he can dispose with her time, wishes and needs! She just won`t always be here this way..

So she left. She got tired explaining hundreds of times things that he won`t see or hear. Too much is too much. And she was gone. Bye bye!

Leaving him in shock and disbeleif. What a „bitch“! How could she?!?

The worst part is that he have never asked himself if He have done something wrong. So that he can actually learn something from it, that his next relationship wouldn`t end in the same way.

But noooooooooo, there he is now, in the fresh relationship, complaining again that his new partner is unreasonble. Even gets insulted if she, or somebody else, tells him something. He is perfect! He doesn`t cheat, beats her up, has serious intentions… what is her problem?!?

The problem is that he takes her for granted. Like he did before.

Which, by now, he had to learn. But he didn`t.

That way the break up would hurt him but after it he would rise as a new better man.

Not as a bitter spoiled creature, finding every excuse in the world to avoid the facing.

Not to the ex but to himself.

Now, we are all waiting how long will it take until the Present one decides she had enough.

The bets are open.

At least this way someone will get something from it!


The phone is ringing. I`m picking it up and hear my dear friend screaming:

„She`s completly insane! She˙s making me nuts!“

What happened? She, the friend, has a mother. And the mother is not well, somewhat from her age, then from the lifestyle (bacon is woman`s best friend theory) all accompanioned with stubbornness. So the mother got sick again and the Friend took her to the hospital. There she got therapy and further testings.

Which lasted for 2 days.

The 3rd day, dear mom packed her things and left. To the other part of the country for a wedding. She left a note, that she will get back on Monday. A promise.

Till Monday my friend will eat her heart out worrying. Not a promise. A fact.

I understand her completly.

My grandma, for example, gives the prefix „shoemaker“ to all the doctors. So that the actual title of the doctor, upon her opinion, goes: dr.shoemaker .Tony Smith PhD. Because they don`t have a clue. So she is fighting with her arms and legs every time she have to visit one.

The thing that really worries me now is that my mother took the same modus operandi lately.

She won`t see a doctor.

Not for a million.

Yes, she is suffocating, has vertigos, nauseas,… but she won`t go. `Quoting „Cause they suck!“. She claims that they will only harass her and that they surely won`t help her. Which arises the argument because I bealive that this is very selfish and irrisponssible from her on what she responds that she have already prepared the money for her funeral?!? so I don`t have to think about a thing. Like, everything is all right now.

Right, thank you mom! I am much calmer now!…

When she pisses me like that, the only thing I can think of is to put few sedatives in her food, tie her with a solid rope and drag her to the doctor!

If she keeps on with this insane ignorant crusade, I will probably do it. I risk a suit for domestic violence but she asked for it.

The interesting thing about it is that my Friend, no matter how she is angry on her mother, is also avoiding the doctors. And she is very affectionate to self-healing. When she is sick, she just empties the medicine cabinet, takes all the pills that she finds in her home, and waits till it passes. But the drugs don`t wooooork….

And now even my mother started to behave like my grandma. No matter how she was freaking out before about it. Now she just burries herself on the sofa and repeats I don`t waaaanaaaaaa like a 3year old. Which again activates my dark kidnapping-drug-abuse urges.

All that makes me think that how much we hate the behavior of our parents, no matter how much we are trying not to repeat their mistakes and how much we work on ourselves to be better persons – the legacy is still alive.

We are and we will always be children of our parents.

I don`t know about you but I just freeze every time when I catch myself telling or doing something which drove me nuts with my falks. And then I wonder, will I have enough time/years to see, correct and don`t pass further those family faults which they have generously given to me?

Because they are here for so long that I still don`t perceive it, they are still laying in the usual/normal drawer.

Or to write and notarize the document to my close ones where I will state that I allow  kindapping, drugging and dragging of yours truely to the doctors in case of dogged stubbornness and selfishness? At least to give them some peace of mind.

Scanning, that`s will I do.

I will upgrade my personal anti-malware program which will sistematicaly search and eliminate potential treaths. Integrated with a similar program of my close ones. Just to be sure.

To be certain not to copy-paste and send fwd those malicious folders.

Because me and my loved ones deserve it.