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Public illusion

Searching…Searching…Searching…Target located. Lock and load.

You have found the wanted targer which mostly suits your prefrences.

A man, attractive, mostly bested, educated, with similar affinities, free…

Eye contact have been established several times, same as the mutual visual estimation. You staring at him, he˙s staring back to you. Positive feedback.

You see him usually at night. He is mostly with his male buddies. And for that reason you zaključiti da he is single. And ready to mingle. With you.

Of course he is free, otherwise he would be companioned by a female speciment. Because people do that. When they „have“ someone, they go out togeter, that way declaring to the world their mutual attraction and the desire for spending their free time together. So men take their proud choice by the hand and show it to the public – the female representative with which He is sharing his…intimate juices. And his time and space.

On several occasions, you haven`t seen any such activity in the space of your dark object of desire,  so you feel invited to step into his intimate territory. With doors wide opened.

Not surmising anything…

Well behind the carefully built facade of the attractive FREE male you will find a twofaced selfish maggot which is already sharing his intimate space with someone. Far from your eyes. While you are flerting with him. And seeding your wishes and hopes on his ground.

At the time he is playing naive. He is very kind with you, he doesn`t push it, which seems to you like a polite human being, who respects the women. Yeah right…

You had the pleasure to meet a sleezy weasel which loves to sit on two chairs. No, he is not timid, shy or full of respect, as you may presume but caution. At this time, he is already sharing his precious tool with someone but you haven`t figured it out `cause he is alone or with his friends everytime you run to him when you go out.

Soon you find out that he is seeing somebody, to be precise, he is in the relationship. In the same time playing the role of the „Lost in the dark“, blinking with his pretty eyes cause he`s flashed by your sudden lighting phenomenon.

What a….

You have every right to be dissapointed but you know what to do. You do because you know that even if he breaks up with his current female choice, he would do the same thing to you. While you would cuddle him during the week, he would be playing a free spirit during the weekend, available for new acquaintances. No strings. No mercy.

Because he needs space.

A fucking architect.

So much for respect. Hope. And trust.

So put a cross on the thing.

Write a R.I.P. on it.

Barry it to be rotten.

He belongs to maggots anyway.

Not to you.

You will find something else. Something real. Something good.

Because you deserve it.

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Didn`t want to be unfair towards men so here`s the alarm list of women which need to be avoided. For your own sake.

  1. The Squirell

 

So called Sweet and sour – sweet from the outside but full of bitterness and pure poison in the inside. A synonim for manipulation, easily slips under man`s The Bitch of the Year radar and for that reason it is the most common type from which men get hurt. She uses sweet and innocent look, ravishing blinking with her eyes, making you feel cool and bright, conviced in total control of the situation.

Big mistake.

Under a ton of carefully places candies, something else is hiding – a malicious and elusive bitch which will make dance as she`s playing. Foxtrot, salsa, mambo, hustle, acrobatic rock`n`roll…you`ll do them all. You will jump around, with a silly smile on your face, like an Easter rabbit!

When you wake up, it will be too late – she will own your ass. Think about it, isn`t it just too good to be true? You men are usually good in logic, we are human, you would have to know that we all have our good and bad sides, yin and yang, remember?… What you said? Oh, that she is so sweet, innocent and harmless!…Well…WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE!

We are all good and bad, and if somebody insists on being only sweet, you HAVE to know that she/he is caring tones of poison inside which has to hide. Fact of life.

Amateurs….

2. Eternaly unsatisfied

So called The Crow will kljucati you for every little thing you can think of. And beyond. Absolutely everything you do or say just won`t be good enough. Even if she compliments you for something (on Xmass or some other major holiday) after it you will always hear „But…..!“. You will be always followed by her discrediting look, no matter if you are changing you carrier, a light bulb or a shirt. Face it, you just won`t be able to satisfy her.

We are all fantasising to do or say something which will result with the pride and satisfaction in partner`s eyes. This is why you will give all your best to make every day a victorious one. Well…it ain`t gonna happen. Nope. Never.

And in time, for stress and pressure, you will become more awkward and cubbish as each day passes, which will finally lead to inevitable disaster.

So, please, for the sake of the whole humanity, try to eat chocolatte, or do what ever pleases you to keep the stress down.

Or just leave.

`Cause this one…she would turn Buddha into raging terorist!

3. Perfect

She always looks great, wears perfect make up, dressed to kill, always knows when and what to say, doesn`t have any problems, always in control of everything, she is never late… Beautiful! Just perfect! Standing ovations!

So what can you expect living with her? Well, she is perfect and that means that you have to be perfect too. Translating: you will never use any dirty word, drink something as vulgar as beer is, you will have sex at the exact day and time that is agreed – never before and never after, you will never eat onion again (You stink like a pig!), never put a glass on a table without a coaster, you will always have to think carefully before you say something (Don`t embarace me!), you will never spend an afternoon or evening on front of the tv (Do something constructive!) and so on.

You`re with her, so that means you have to be perfect too. All the time, everywhere, anyhow.

Are you up to it?

4. Attention whore

So called „Forest brook“ – so noisy and so shallow! Extremly superfficient, flerts with anything that breaths, no matter if you`re present or not, it doesn`t matter. She always has to be in the centre of the attention, star of the every party, giggles a lot, screams often and loughs too loud. No matter how she looks, her selfconfidence is so low that this kind of attention is the only thing that can actually „feed“ her. Mostly with lower intelligence, this example often „jumps out“ for her body language which is provocative and cheap. Anything for attention.

She is usually with somebody who bealives to her every word and to the fact that only he, actually, truely knows her… Right…Until she runs into something something more appealing. A better audience. She lives for admiration.

The fact is that even when you do it with her she is thinking what impression that she leaves on you. She works on a principle of a moth and a lamp.

Usually, only the extremly dumb men are attracted to her. No harm to the rest of the humanity.

 

5. Motherly type

Huh….a bad one. By default, men like when a woman takes care of them. They adore when she cooks them, cleans to them, irons… And this is why they easily fall on this type. That thing that they don`t see clearly is that She doesn`t see them. At all.

What She does see is a completly immatured creature, totally incapable to take care for himself. So degeneric that he wouldn`t be able to dress in the morning if She wasn`t around. Without Her he would die of hunger, wondering around all dirty not knowing when and where he is going…

The only messagge that She`s got is: you are not a man, you are a retarded child. Without me you don`t exist.

If you don`t mind to be treathed like an idiot, knock yourself out.

6. Gold-digger

You better earn more than she can spend. The value of the man for her is estimated upon his ability to cash. Men are usually picking them aware of the choice. Fair trade – look beautiful, keep your mouth shot, do as I say and you will get what you want.

If you`re not Bill Gates, and you still want something like it for yourself, prepare yourself for big loans, followed by taking money from some really shady people and finally a long jail time. Don`t worry, she won`t be crying long after your change of address. Soon (like a day after) she will find comfort in another men`s wallet, pardon! arms.

Bless her.

7. Classical Eager-to-get-married

Very often speciment, it doesn`t matter who you are or what you are, as long as you have a finger on which she may place a ring. She actually not even notices you. You area totally irrelevant factor. Until it comes to the final phase, she will say and do anything. You are the smartest, most beautiful men she ever saw.

It`s easy to recognize her `cause she is stenjati as soon as you touch her stockings. Oh, how she wants you! You are so exciting! Right…

After the wedding ceremony suddenly you turn into a plain spitting and quirking object. Umjesto your name, her sententes begin with „That idiot…“. Sex is very rare and even if it happens starts with „Can you hurry? My favorite show begins in 2 minutes.“. Forget about the oral satisfaction cause it is pure SF for you now.

Stručno said, you`re fucked.

By the way, your mother in law will become a permanent inventory in your house, giving a push to your „loving one`s“ insults and nugging. Congratulations!

8. The Amazon

Her main line is that all men ar scum which must be punished. About 400 years ago someone have broken her heart and for that reason you`re gonna pay… Oh how will you pay!

Actually, she would like to be loved, somewhere deep inside (very, very, deep) but she just can`t let it go. So she is pljuvanje on you and on the whole male population. ..`Cause you`re pigs…All of you…Jerks…Worth only for hard labour and reproduction….Bastards..

She is indipendent, doesn`t ask too much care, and sex is mostly great. If you`re really patient, don`t mind to be stamp on every once in a while, maybe…just maybe, something will come up of it. But do it slowly. Otherwise she will bite your head off.

 

9. The Double Agent

So called Lady in distress doesn`t leaves the first one until she finds the next one who will take care of her. Every man has a irreparable flaw and there is always someone better out there. She`s immature and hard to please. Looking for a fairytale but it`s has to be written, played and directed by someone else. Mostly very femminine, she will convince you that she gave everything to the bastard that she`s with now, but he is so bad, doesn`t love her really…And she`s miserable, doesn`t now what to do… Oh but look, now you`re here and she finally sees the light at the end of he tunnel, ˙cause you`re so great blah, blah, blah…

She is so good at this that usually you won`t be sure will she leave the bastard for you or not, or are you more than friends or just…

Don`t kid yourself, in the same time she is chirping with 3 more morons like yourself. If you „win“ and get stuck with her….Well, too bad. You can only hope that she will leave you soon enough for some other victim.

10. Save me

Always week, a total parasite, she is looking for her daddy. She expects that you will take care of her all the time, that you will take all the responsability and decisions, so if anything bad happens – it will be completly your fault. As the time goes by, the Knight in shiny armour becomes a working horse which pulls for both of them, while she just lays on her back. Everything is too hard for her, complicated and unsolvable, but she has You, her hero, which will solve everything with such ease and a smile on his face….

At first you will feel strong, menly and powerful but after a certain period you won`t be able to shake the feeling of exhaustion and dispair. And then you may ask: who`s your daddy?

Because that is extactly what you`ll become – a father for a needy child. And you know how they call ol`bastards which sleep with a child? Yes, the P word. It is twisted and sick. Shame on you!

There, now nobody can tell I`m a sexist.

And one more, usually you may find several types mixed in one person. And that is a cocktail you really shouldn`t drink. Imagine the hangover!

 

In cooperation with my friends, wrote which kind of men are very bad for a woman. Here are few categories of men that you definitely want to avoid. With them, they only question what can bother you is „what and how much will I lose?“. Every type has it`s own symptoms and it would good if you can recognize it when you`re still ahead.

  1. „Unhappily“ married men or the ones in exclusive relationships which are still searching for the One

 

This kind of parasites are actually quite often. He is tided up but that definitly doesn`t stops him to look for a softer pillow for his anguished little head. „She“ doesn`t understands him, or She is not excatly what he was looking for but that`s not a good reason to leave her. Never or not until he is 100% sure that you will give him everything what he wants. Translating, somebody who will take all his shit and forgive him everything. Because he needs to be understood.

Then he leaves Her without any mercy. Don`t kid yourself, you will be his only one just until he gets a new itch or when he suddenly gets that even you are not what he was looking for. And he never will. He will be always playing the field and he will never commit totally to anyone.

You will recognize him for his slickness, he is always tided up, his shirts are ironed, perfectly clean, and he always has lots of neodgodive obaveze. When his cells rings he usually leaves the room and somehow he often just can`t see you when you want to. `Cause he is busy. Completly. With somebody else.

  1. Man child type

 

Do you know the saying „don`t sleep with the child because you will awake pissed“? He needs to be nourished of all the time and you always must be there for him. His needs and wishes are more important than yours. If something doesn`t goes how he wanted to, you can expect his yelling, shouting, pouting or complete silence that will last for hours and sometimes days. And you will never love him enough. He needs his mom not a equal being beside him. It has nothing to do with his age, he will never grow up. He is looking for a fairytale, without any problems or compromises. As soon as some problems occur and he needs to invest a little effort in the relationship, you will become undesirable.

You can recognize him by his eternal playfulness and his affinity to dream most of the time. He is quite amusing in the beginning, you will never be bored because he will always want to do something or go somewhere. As long as it`s not boring.

Let him get a dog.

Wait a sec, that`s a bad idea. Then he would have to feed it, walk it, pet it…  The poor thing would probably die or run away. Like you should too. As fast as possible.

  1. Damaged good

 

Once upon a time there was a certain someone who have hurted him badly and from that time he just can not love again. Wrong! He didin`t love that one either. This kind of goblin is a plain simple coward. His balls were amputated at his birth and from then he is just screwing any woman he meets. The line „Maybe…I just can`t love anyone anymore….“ is a simple lie. No asshole, you`re just too lazy and egocentric. A type of the men which always places his boundaries out of your reach just that something wouldn`t hurt him. He can`t stand any pain. Because he is too weak. Oh, you poor baby…

He usually dies alone. Because nobody wants to get only 10% for a fully paid good.

You will recognize him easily: he refuses to change any of his habits, however bad or silly they may be. He won`t take any responsability or a commitment because for him it is always too soon. As soon as you suggest that you would like a normal relationship, he will get agitated and say that you are suffocating him.

Well my dear…. I hope you`ll choke!

  1. Peacocks

 

He needs your eternal admiration. You will never stand beside him on a throne because he is the Sun around which the whole universe is turning. He is smart, beautiful as Adonis, talented, charming, funny, a star evryewhere he goes.

He always must be in the centre, surrounded by his loving fans who will faint on his arrival. When you go out, you are not so important as the reactions of other people. Actually, it is not really important if it`s you or somebody else as long as he gets the admiration he needs. Your undivided attention…As long as you feed his ego. If you try to accent yourself, his love will nepovratno fade away. You will get a lot of „Lets talk about me/mine….“. You are always talking about he and his, analyzing for hours his moves, looks or thoughts, competitions, how someone talked to him…

And you do that every day. In case you  kneel or praise enough and never look directly in the eyes there is a chance that he will rewarded you for loyalty and stay with you. In the meanwhile, you will get serious problems with your spine and skined knees.

You will recognize him for his incredible confidence and royal behavior. He is a star and he knows it. Are you the satellite?

  1. Classic player

 

You`re great for him. Really cool. He may call you when he wants and be with you when he wants. The only problem is that you would like to see him more often. To have a rythm and a constant. Not to be usually together only on a weekend (late hours) or when if he suddenly suprises you during the week when, finishing in the bed again after which he doesn`t shows or calls for days or even weeks. When you try to talk about it , about you, he says that he is having a great time with you but he is just not ready, or that this is not the time,  that now is a very delicate period for him, altough he would really like more, but now…at this time…he doesn`t have the….now… is not possible.

But he is more than willing for going out with his buddies and other girls. That is a fact. For them, he will always find and make time. And you will blush as soon as he calls. Whenever that is. Mr. Uncatchable.

And don`t kid yourself with „Maybe soon he will….“. Never. Remember that.

  1. Hidden player

 

So called Wondering eye. He is with you but whenever something passes by and it`s female,  he will absorbing with implacable intesity. When you go out he stares in other chicks, he often charms them with his brain and wit and treats you like you`re his sister or and old friend. The fact that this makes you feel inferior, unattractive and neglected is YOUR problem. Not his. Cause in the end, he is with you, what more do you want?

He needs his freedom and he will rather go out with his friends on the weekend than with you because he „relaxes so much better that way“. Oh really? So you`re comfortable but the others are more fun.

As long as you don`t nug him too much – he will stay wih you. Regular sex is a good thing… if you`re into that only. But as soon as you said anything, and pass that magic level of his tolerance (which is very low) he will leave.

Here, take the passport. And don`t come back.

  1. Mama`s boy

 

His mom is great. Or terrible. Either way he is mentioning her at least few times per a day. They usually have love-hate relationship. If his mom needs or wants something, he runs there like hell. You can wait. The mom always comes first. The reasons may be different but the end is always the same.

If you`re ready and willing to always be the 2nd one – knock youreslf out! No plan of yours will  be important enough if she calls and suggests something. Had plans for a trip together? Looking forward to it? Well if mom wants to have lunch, or something else, with her boy that day, take a rain check. Or you may take her with you. Or have always a back up plan with someone who knows the difference between a family trip and a romantic getaway.

Even if you agree on this type of arrangement be ready to hear:

–         my mom cooks it this way and I think it`s delicious

–         mom says that it`s better to do it this way

–         mom called and I have go to help her with..

–         I have to7 cause I can`t listen to my mom`s nugging

Well honey, next time you want some lovin` ask your mom!

  1. Addicts

 

Actually for this type you don`t need a special warning. No matter if it`s drug or booze. In any case remember – they are not here. Not with their head or their heart. They are using isolators, no matter which kind, because it makes them feel better. They are not really here. This type is a special kind of wimps apt to self-destruction, which is very hard – for themselves and especially for you. They can promise you anything and they are usually claiming that they are not addicted and that they can stop whenever they want.

If they could they would stop. Most of them are not retarted, they are aware of consequences. But they ignore it. The point is that you will be the one who will take all his crap: the apathy, depression or nervousness. It`s got nothing to do with you, they are just selfish and weak. Anyhow, no good. No good at all. Rarely, you may run into an exception but usually it`s pure SF. The statistics don`t lie.

How the recognize him is easy – beside the mentioned moodyness and unexpected over-reaction to things, try for example to see how many glasses (or bottles) is he consuming and how often is he drinking. Addiction is a desease which destroys not only the consument but also his close ones.

A friend of mine, who is a cop, told me a story about a woman who was beaten by her drunk husband. When they`ve asked her how long is he drinking she said: „Oh, he was a drinker since I met him!“. When they asked her howcome she didn`t react to his booze right at the beginning of the relationship she answered: „Oh but back then, when he was drinking, he was a stud!  He was acting funny, amusing and confident. I didn`t know he will be like this!

Well she should, just like you. Just say no. To the addicts too.

There, hope my little group have helped you with their experiences so that they don`t turn into becoming yours. Give your love to someone who can appreciate it and give it back to you.

Godspeed!